Your Child's Behavior Isn’t Really Why You’re Yelling

Mama, we all have those days when our kiddos' behavior seems to push us to our breaking point. And when they do, it’s easy and common to believe that if they would listen, behave, and do what we asked, we wouldn't end up yelling so much. But what if I told you your child's behavior isn’t why you're yelling?

The Hard Truth: It’s About You

This might not be easy to hear, but it's a truth that we can't ignore: When you yell, it's more about what's going on inside of you than about what your child is doing. Yes, their behavior may be frustrating, annoying, and even infuriating—that can be true, but yelling is often a sign that you've reached a breaking point in your frustration and anger that you are having difficulty managing.

Yelling can feel like the only thing that works in the moment. It can feel like there's no other choice like it's the only way to get through to them. Because, truthfully, yelling usually works. But Mama, I want you to know that there is another way.

No Blame, No Shame

I want to be clear: There's no blame, shame, or guilt here if you are struggling with frustration, anger or yelling and thinking it’s the kids. I've been in your shoes and understand how hard it can be. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if only our kids would behave, we wouldn't need to yell. But the truth is, understanding where your frustration and anger are genuinely coming from is the first step to effectively changing how you respond.

Understanding Your Frustration

So, where does your frustration come from? Often, it comes from feeling overwhelmed, unsupported, or just plain exhausted. It can also come from the pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect, to keep everything together, and to manage all the moving parts of our lives without breaking a sweat—what I refer to as those UNrealistic expectations we place on ourselves.

When you can identify what's really driving your frustration, you'll find that you don't need to yell to get through to your kids. And when you address the root cause of your frustration, you can become the calm, confident mom you want to be, even in the most challenging moments.

A Path to Becoming a Calmer, More Confident Mom

Imagine handling your child’s challenging behavior without raising your voice. Imagine feeling in control, even when things don’t go as planned. It’s possible, Mama. I’ve been there, and I have become a calmer, more connected parent—and you can be, too.

That’s why I created a free eBook, "Three Reasons Why You May Be Yelling, and What You Can Begin To Do To STOP…Today." In this guide, I share insights into 3 common reasons moms are still yelling that have helped me and hundreds of other moms like you understand what could be going on when you yell and what you can do about it. 

Ready to Take the Next Step?

If you’re ready to stop yelling and start feeling calmer and more confident, I invite you to grab a copy of my free eBook. It’s a simple first step you can take today to transform your parenting journey.

You can download it directly here.

Remember, Mama. You're not alone, and change is possible.

You’ve got this!

xx

Claire